Marriage is a Job
Love conquers all, I do not think most of the youth of today’s age have fully realized the work that must be done to make love last. One important thing to consider is a happy marriage. It is said “a marriage may be ‘made in heaven,’ but the maintenance must be done on earth”. Couples must constantly be thinking about their partner and that what they do always influences the marriage, in one way or another. I for one, did not really understand what it took to keep a marriage going. Marriages must be cultivated and worked at, just like a garden, to keep them fruitful and lasting.
Of all the people I know one friend is what I always remember when early marriage is discussed. She got firs married when she was nineteen. We were, or so she totally though that she was in love with her new husband of twenty-one. Then they moved. She had no experience in cooking or cleaning as her mother took care of those things while we were growing up. When she got married it was such overwhelming to realize how much work went into those things. It was a challenge and a problem that she did not even know how to toast a bread or to fry either sunny side up or even a scramble egg. Her poor lawful partner was just the same no knowing had absolutely no experience in the kitchen or in the house that should be a no brainer at all. She tried to cook and it went on chaos. I remember she tried to cook rice and soup and fried chicken and everything was burnt or under-cooked. Those first few months were such an adjustment for both.
Her husband also had some struggles to win and get over. He had been living at home, just as my friend had, and had been able to spend all of his paycheck on himself. He had no one to answer for but himself. They now had think of their own liabilities such utility bills, rent, and car notes. They also need also had to spare money to buy food and groceries. The first paycheck he gave her when they were first married was so difficult for him. He now could not afford to splurge his whims that he was used to buying for himself. He had to start thinking of my friend too. It hurt him so much to hand over his money and not get the types of things he wanted and was used to getting.
Both of their parents were from the era that men went out and worked and women stayed at home. Consequently, that was how we though things should be also. Unfortunately, the bills and the lifestyle prevented them from doing that for long. She finally had to go to work. She found a job working full-time as a supervisor and he was already working full-time as a government employee. He was gone twenty-four hours on and twenty-four hours off, twenty-four hours on then three days off. Soon, they become attentive to the working and then coming home and just being tired that stopped communicating. She thought that was the beginning of the end.
They kept that routine for nine year49+s. In the meantime, they had two children also to deal with. Go to work, come home, cook for the kids, then go to bed. Once the kids were in school, and then after they had dinner, helped them with their homework. The common communication thing is thinning. It was the basic things, dealing with the kids or paying the bills. Once in a while, things seemed to go back to the way they were and they had a good time and seemed to really be in love again. Both of them realized though, that they had never been in love in the first place, that it had been infatuation.
Unfortunately, it seems that’s how it goes for a lot of young couples nowadays. They think they are in love, but it is really infatuation. They do not realize that marriage is work and if they really do not love and understand the other person, they are going to have problems. It is never going to last for the long haul. I know mine didn’t and that is what is so sad. Oftentimes, it is the children who are the ones to suffer when things do not work out. I think that marriage is a job and it must be worked at continually to make it last and be satisfying.
Love conquers all, I do not think most of the youth of today’s age have fully realized the work that must be done to make love last. One important thing to consider is a happy marriage. It is said “a marriage may be ‘made in heaven,’ but the maintenance must be done on earth”. Couples must constantly be thinking about their partner and that what they do always influences the marriage, in one way or another. I for one, did not really understand what it took to keep a marriage going. Marriages must be cultivated and worked at, just like a garden, to keep them fruitful and lasting.
Of all the people I know one friend is what I always remember when early marriage is discussed. She got firs married when she was nineteen. We were, or so she totally though that she was in love with her new husband of twenty-one. Then they moved. She had no experience in cooking or cleaning as her mother took care of those things while we were growing up. When she got married it was such overwhelming to realize how much work went into those things. It was a challenge and a problem that she did not even know how to toast a bread or to fry either sunny side up or even a scramble egg. Her poor lawful partner was just the same no knowing had absolutely no experience in the kitchen or in the house that should be a no brainer at all. She tried to cook and it went on chaos. I remember she tried to cook rice and soup and fried chicken and everything was burnt or under-cooked. Those first few months were such an adjustment for both.
Her husband also had some struggles to win and get over. He had been living at home, just as my friend had, and had been able to spend all of his paycheck on himself. He had no one to answer for but himself. They now had think of their own liabilities such utility bills, rent, and car notes. They also need also had to spare money to buy food and groceries. The first paycheck he gave her when they were first married was so difficult for him. He now could not afford to splurge his whims that he was used to buying for himself. He had to start thinking of my friend too. It hurt him so much to hand over his money and not get the types of things he wanted and was used to getting.
Both of their parents were from the era that men went out and worked and women stayed at home. Consequently, that was how we though things should be also. Unfortunately, the bills and the lifestyle prevented them from doing that for long. She finally had to go to work. She found a job working full-time as a supervisor and he was already working full-time as a government employee. He was gone twenty-four hours on and twenty-four hours off, twenty-four hours on then three days off. Soon, they become attentive to the working and then coming home and just being tired that stopped communicating. She thought that was the beginning of the end.
They kept that routine for nine year49+s. In the meantime, they had two children also to deal with. Go to work, come home, cook for the kids, then go to bed. Once the kids were in school, and then after they had dinner, helped them with their homework. The common communication thing is thinning. It was the basic things, dealing with the kids or paying the bills. Once in a while, things seemed to go back to the way they were and they had a good time and seemed to really be in love again. Both of them realized though, that they had never been in love in the first place, that it had been infatuation.
Unfortunately, it seems that’s how it goes for a lot of young couples nowadays. They think they are in love, but it is really infatuation. They do not realize that marriage is work and if they really do not love and understand the other person, they are going to have problems. It is never going to last for the long haul. I know mine didn’t and that is what is so sad. Oftentimes, it is the children who are the ones to suffer when things do not work out. I think that marriage is a job and it must be worked at continually to make it last and be satisfying.